Yesterday, I completed The Bold Type, and just the thought of the three independent bold characters was soo interesting that I binge watched it(when my bro recharged his account). The characters are designed in a way that you will relate deeply to them especially if you are a girl. And what I related to the most is the magazine and how gracefully the characters pulled their jobs.
The end of the fourth season left me with this thought(no spoilers), whether I do always look forward to happy endings. This might possibly be the strategy and plot but in general, I always look forward to the happy endings in reel and real life. This is not generally a place where I write about shows but this is something that struck with me and I think would strike most of us, "Are happy endings really happy?"
Are happy endings really happy?
Taking the example from the show, the ending of the season might be happy and satisfied for others but personally I look forward to everyone being happy and in a place where they are satisfied with what they are doing. This is something that has always been daunting for me in personal life too. I look forward to having no endings and even if they occur I want them to be happy.
The fact that I fail to accept the reality and, satisfaction the characters will get in the further future pushes me into a zone where I am constantly contemplating the near future without looking what better is going to come in the next half. And the fact that others respect the ending makes it even harder for me to accept the truth.
Happy endings might look exciting but the reality is that, the Bollywood movies have wrapped us in a bubble of happy endings with families reuniting and the lovers realizing they are meant to be together and so we believe that this will happen in our lives too. And when this doesn't happen we fail to accept the truth and start living in a non-existent cipher world with no truth and courage.
The happy ending bubble
This happy ending bubble has impacted me since really long. I generally don't accept the fact that things can go wrong too and the end is necessary for me to move forward. The not so graceful endings often leave me anxious and so I get into the "DND Zone", which is totally fine btw but when the comprehension that things will remain like this hits it gets weird, really weird...
This is the main reason why I always emphasize on keeping everything closer and eventually that will hurt you. The more you hold on something the more it hurts and the worse the ending gets. It took me a lot of time(still is hard) to get acquainted with the fact that some endings are meant to be hard and they need to end for a better future because you generally don't look at the far future you will think of what will happen the next minute and so it gets harder.
And so the answer to my question is, NO HAPPY ENDINGS ARE NOT NECCESSARY!
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KYUNKI AASMAN ZARURI HAI! |
It is totally fine if you are sad by what happened right now. But trust me what will happen next is better than having a happy ending where you are not happy. In the arena where breakups take place on Insta stories it is okay if you cry alone in the bathroom, look at your after cry face and realize how rash yet correct the ending is.
What next to do?
After giving you the relatable content let me share a few things that help me when the endings are not what I expect:
- Take a deep breath and relax
- Accept the fact that this HAS HAPPENED(Ik it is easy to say but you can try)
- Write everything down
- Talk to someone (friends, journal, strangers)
- Write, dance, paint, sing, cook, read, listen to songs, watch action movies
- Stay away from phones. (Social Media is not real)
- Take yourself out and observe people
- Spend time with your family(Yes, that helps)
- Stay away from toxic people(most importantly)
- Fake it till you make it (Pretend and pull yourself out)
- Follow me and talk to me @poorvik35@gmail.com
I hope this helps you in some way, and in case I triggered you or said anything wrong I am really sorry <3
Share your opinions about the show, your life and embarrassments with us in the comment section. And also tell me what helps you in these situations :)
Thankyou for reading :)
